What NOT to Say to Someone in Chronic Pain

May 2, 2013 at 12:33 am (Uncategorized)

I know that when faced with a loved one with chronic pain and/or illness, it can be difficult to know what the right thing to say is. Many people say hurtful things not because they wish to be hurtful, but because they (thankfully) do not understand the experience of living with constant, unrelenting pain and suffering. They may even believe some of these things- that we suffer because we haven’t tried enough, or applied ourselves enough to find succor, or that suffering can be a divine experience. And even if these things are *true*, hearing them over and over doesn’t make them helpful or reassuring. I look forwardto the next installment, which gives people ideas on what they *can* say to be supportive.



  1. Tracy Rydzy, MSW, LSW said,

    Thanks for re blogging this, it’s an honor, I absolutely love your writing!

  2. EVCelt said,

    Very useful… a lot of them apply to people with *any* kind of chronic illness, especially mental/neuro issues.

  3. Maia said,

    Del – it’s wonderful to see you blogging again. I’ve thought of you very much over the last week and kept checking in to see how you’re getting on post-surgery. Gods all bless. M x

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